I’m here to disclose the truth about all sides of bullies, the influences on the bullies, and the victims. People’s attitudes lately about bullying seem to be indifferent or disinterested. Well, perhaps I ought to call out the people who make it all possible, and charge you with the crimes you’re actually committing.
The Bully’s Parents
Dear parents of bully: it’s your fault. There’s no question you had a direct hand in this. I can’t quite figure out which evil you committed… it’s one of 2 things. Either:
- You actively teach your kid to be an asshole. To go out of their way to make other people feel hurt, belittled, and worthless. You train your kid every day so that one day they can become psychotic maniacs who wind up shooting up a school (most likely at your discretion).
- Your kid is doing despicable things to people, and you’ve made a failure of an effort to steer them the other way. You did not do your job as a parent to make sure your kid knows what’s acceptable, and what is not. And if you think your efforts are in vain, and your kid simply has no conscience, then you did not do your duty to make sure they were locked up away from the rest of us so we can all live our lives in peace.
In any case, it’s entirely your fault these bullies exist. One way or another, you failed as parents, and now your failure is hurting everyone else. You’re horrible people, and I want everyone to point a defiant finger in your face so you have no choice but to face it.
And don’t give me that crap about “you don’t have kids, so you have no idea what you’re talking about.” I don’t need to be a parent to know that it’s important that a child know that bullying is wrong. I don’t need to be a parent to know that a child should have the respect of others in mind, and not engage in bullying in the first place. If they’re bullying, then apparently you’re doing something wrong. I don’t claim to know what needs to be done, because that’s your job. You accepted the role as parent, so now it’s your job to figure it all out. Too hard? Well tough shit. Nobody said being a parent was easy. Clearly you can’t cut it, so kindly hand your kids off to someone who can.
The Crowd
Anyone who’s ever been bullied will remember this, but only in their subconscious. The reason why bullying is successful is due to the participation of everyone in the room. Ever seen two people start fighting? What does everyone immediately do? Throw their fists in the air and chant “Fight! Fight! Fight!”. What the hell is wrong with you? You’re cheering on the idea of somebody getting hurt. That’s what you like, isn’t it, you sick, sadistic, disgusting human wastes?! You like the idea of people getting hurt. It fulfills your sick fantasies. I bet you go home and watch Bum Fights and jerk off.
Bullying is never successful without everyone else cheering the bully on, or laughing at the bully’s jokes at the victim’s expense. Parents, once again, this is where you come in. You need to somehow instill the idea that this is wrong. If a bully can receive no validation nor reassurance for their actions, they’ll have to entertain themselves in some other way, and more than likely a way that will be validated: the way that hurts no one.
Bullying is partially the fault of the parents of the bystanders who do nothing except encourage the abuse.
The Victim
You know what? It’s your fault too. It’s your fault because you continue to allow them to bully you. The bully will continue to eat away at your life’s spirit because you’re too much of a fucking coward to stand up and do anything about it. Clearly, the bully is incapable of empathy and compassion, let alone diplomatic negotiation. It’s time to do what we’ve historically done against any oppressing force: get violent. Bullies don’t understand much, but pain … pain is universal. That’s the only language they’ll understand, and it’s the language you now need to speak.
“Violence is never the answer.” Bullshit. Violence is the answer, albeit the last resort answer.
Here’s what you do.
- Go through the channels. Talk to your teacher, talk to your parents, and make sure that the bully’s parents are spoken to. Hopefully, this will nip the problem in the bud before it gets out of hand.
- If the above fails, well, clearly the adults are not doing their jobs, and now it’s time to take matters into your own hands. Actually, quite literally in your own hands. Fuckin’ A, and Fuckin’ B. Wait for the bully to be distracted with something, then grab a chair or something and slam it over their head really hard. They’ll receive a concussion, and probably have to go to the hospital, but I can guarantee you they’ll think twice about fucking with you again. Here’s a trick you can use on the bus. You’ll need some rope. Get into the seat behind them. When they least expect it, wrap the rope around their neck, and hold both ends with one hand. With the other, start punching like crazy. They won’t be able to do anything about it because they’ll be too busy trying not to choke from the rope around their neck. Lastly, if you’re ever brought into a man-to-man fight, don’t punch. Get in close, and wrap your arms around their body. They might get a punch or 2 off on you, but that’s ok. Lift them up so their feet aren’t touching the ground, then roll them backwards so the back of their head smacks hard against the street pavement. Do this quickly, lest they realize what’s going on and attempt to move in a way that’ll prevent you.
- Feel horrible about it. Hurting someone is never a good thing. If you feel terrible for what you did, you’re supposed to. It means that you’re not a violent person, and you have empathy and compassion. It means you’re a sane human being. You should hate yourself after you’re done.
- Attempt to make amends. Talk to the bully afterward, and get to the level of “yeah, we’re cool.” This will mark the end of the pain, and you’ll either understand and respect one another, even if you still don’t like each other… or you’ll wind up making a friend.
But, let’s look at how we can prevent this kinda thing from happening in the first place.
You know how grown-ups always say “just ignore them, and they’ll go away.”? Well, if the bully’s been picking on you for a while, that method won’t work. In fact, that’ll make the bully try even harder to get the reaction that they want out of you. Refer to the above steps on how to rid yourself of this problem.
But, if it’s a fresh, brand new bully, ignoring them may work, or may not. The intention behind ignoring them really is to make sure that they don’t ever believe they can get a satisfying reaction out of you in the first place. You don’t have to straight up ignore them, rather what I find is easier is to always react in a boring way. If they call you names, admit it, and smile stupidly. This is funny the first 2-3 times, but after that, the repetition will bore them, and they’ll go pick on someone else.
Stop being the victim. The time to act is now. And for the parents of the bullied, you need to do your job to ensure that the above does not happen. This is how lawsuits get started. You march right up to that bully’s parents, explain the situation. If you don’t get the right reaction, then it’s time for plan B: police intervention. Let’s see how these parents’ tunes will change after their kid spends the day in a holding cell with bigger, meaner, and uglier kids. If this fails, well, then it’s time you call social services on those parents and see if they can’t get that kid into another household where they can be someone else’s problem. It’s your job to protect your child.
The Bully
You are not a sane human being. You derive pleasure from the pain of others. You’re effectively a rapist. Either you take a look at your life, realize what a horrible person you are, and try to make amends… Or go kill yourself. Throw yourself down a flight of stairs, maybe jump off a bridge that’s 50 feet above a dried up river, or get your dad’s gun, point it at your temple, and pull the trigger. Your existence is a blight on society, and you don’t deserve to be here with the rest of us. You’re toxic, and you must be purified somehow. I personally would rather you lean towards realizing the error of your ways and attempting to make amends. If you cannot see the error of your ways, then you’re a sociopath, and killing yourself off is a good safety measure against what you’ll do if you continue to grow older.